A horrendous national shortage gripped America in the 1970s. The forces of
progress rallied the American people to, in a spirit of shared purpose,
combat our collective need. The leader of this movement donned a sweater and
went on TV to lift the nation from its malaise.
Jimmy Carter and the energy crisis? Feh. That was nothing compared to the
more acute scarcity that plagued America in those dark days. I'm referring,
of course, to the '70s self-esteem famine, during which cardigan-sporting
Fred Rogers heroically served as a Jimmy Carter for the preschool set.
These investments in self-esteem paid off royally, according to a report,
"Egos Inflating Over Time." Jean Twenge of San Diego State University and a
team of psychologists combed through the answers of 16,475 college students
nationwide who took the Narcissistic Personality Inventory survey between
1982 and 2006. Their conclusion: Today's American youth are the most
self-absorbed since we've studied the subject. "We need to stop endlessly
repeating, You're special,' and having children repeat that back," Twenge
told the Associated Press. "Kids are self-centered enough already."
It seems to be a distinctly American problem. Immigrant kids are less
likely, for instance, to see good grades and high compliments as a
birthright.
Don Chance, a finance professor at Louisiana State University, recently told
the Wall Street Journal that Asian-born students don't argue about every bad
grade. They respond to such esteem-deflating feedback by working harder.
I suspect that Twenge and Chance are largely right, but the hand-wringing
about youth's sense of entitlement can go overboard. Volunteerism is on the
rise, not something you would necessarily expect even after discounting for
the desire to pad transcripts and resumes. The best of our supposedly
pampered young men seem more than able to adjust to the culture of
self-sacrifice animating our armed forces.
Nonetheless, what I find fascinating is how our narcissism surplus, to some
extent, is the unintended consequence of trying to use psychology as just
another branch of public health. Saturday-morning cartoons during my youth
were peppered with public service announcements informing kids that, "The
most important person in the whole wide world is you." The long-running TV
show "Wonderama" became "Kids Are People Too" to reflect a new seriousness
of childhood. The burgeoning "children's rights" movement - to which a young
Hillary Clinton was connected - saw treating kids as peers to be of a piece
with the new egalitarianism. Movies as diverse as "Taxi Driver," "Bugsy
Malone" and "Irreconcilable Differences" fixated on treating kids like
adults in one way or another.
The result? Large numbers of kids raised to be like adults have concluded
that they want to stay kids, or at least teens. People my age hate being
called "Mr." or "Mrs." by kids. Grown women read idiotic magazines, obsess
over maintaining a teenager's body and follow the exploits of Lindsay Lohan.
Grown men have been following professional wrestling and playing video games
for 25 years.
I'm part of these trends. Not only do I still enjoy "The Simpsons," but I'm
addicted to shows like "House" and "Grey's Anatomy."
Consider that in the old days, Marcus Welby and Ben Casey were the ideal:
selfless father figures in surgical garb, dispensing not just medical advice
but authoritative life counseling. Modern-day "House," by contrast, is about
a defiantly drug-addicted doctor who admits week after week that he doesn't
care about his patients, but merely about the personal satisfaction of
solving a medical mystery. In "Grey's Anatomy," horribly wounded patients
are wheeled through each episode to serve as metaphors for the relationship
problems of the residents. Impaled by a steel rod? That reminds me, my
boyfriend hasn't told me he loves me today! The patients often die, but at
least the doctors learn important life lessons about dating.
Another result is that the generation taught to share and care beyond all
precedent has become the most singularly concerned in history with making a
buck. A recent UCLA study found that nearly 75 percent of college freshmen
think that it's important to be rich, compared with 62.5 percent in 1980 and
42 percent in 1966.
Americans, young and old, are better than these surveys and TV shows would
suggest. (Just as you might say they were "worse" than "Marcus Welby, M.D."
and "I Love Lucy" suggested.) Even the most arrogant kids learn that they
aren't the most important people in the whole wide world and that there's
more to life than money. They usually learn these lessons when they have
kids of their own. Indeed, one could say we're learning nationally what
parents have been learning personally for millenniums. You can't live your
kids' lives for them. |